I know that society has changed so much in the past recent years. When my parents were young, it was unheard of to see someone in high school pregnant. But times are changing and a quarter of the girls walking around the high school and some middle school halls are pregnant. It isn't for anyone to judge them, its their choice.
Last Christmas, my family was going through a hard time. My sisters boyfriend was living with us because he got kicked out of his families house. My mom, being a good person, took him in.
One night in November, I was at work. I get a call from my mom. She said we have the entire Narcotics task force was upstairs in my house. Turns out, my sisters boyfriend was drug dealing out of my house and the cops had been watching it for months. I was so embarrassed when I found out, considering no one in my entire family is in the that kind of stuff. They arrested my sisters boyfriend, and my mom said he was not welcome back because the cops threatened to park a car out in front of my house if she allowed him back.
Than around mid December, my sister did not get her monthly friend. I notice everything. So i asked her, and she said she was just stressed out and it was late. I'm smarter than that, I realized she was pregnant.
Now everyone in my family knows, my sister is 18. She is a super senior at a behavior high school, she has never held a job for more than 2 weeks in her entire life, and doesn't plan to work anytime soon either.
I love children, but I believe this baby deserves the best. My mom is going to end up raising this baby, because my sister can not afford to and neither can her boyfriend. I wish she would consider other alternatives, but she said "this aint some juno shit, ang." So i guess adoption is out of the question.
She is due in mid June. We will see how that goes. I can't predict the future, but this will be my neice or my nephew and I will love it no matter what. Although, I dont agree with what my sister is doing. I will end up giving that baby everything I can. I just wish she would wake up and smell the roses.
Thank you very much, I'm sorry you ever had to go through stuff like that. My best friend has had her parents in and out of jail the past 10 years for a heroin addiction. :-/ It's really sad to see parents go through this. I totally believe in everything happens for a reason as well. Thats what I live my life by, you live and you learn I guess right? But I know youre right and things will be okay. :)
ReplyDeleteIt sure is a lot to take in. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I've had my share of bad times and I never wish any harm on anyone. I wish you and your family the best. Your mom seems like a really nice, down to earth person from what I got to know her. I wish your family the best and it's true everything happens for a reason. I truly hope everything works out for the best and will keep your family in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteJust as everyone else stated, that sure is a lot to take in. Your familiy seems like they are strong enough to beat any obstacle that comes your way. It is so important for a fmaily to stick together in rough times or times of need, from your writing I believe you have that. At times someone may want to give up but you need to remind them how strong they are. Support, support, support. Your sister has many people in her corner to help her with the baby, while some teens have not one person on their side. Your sister is going to grow up pretty fast and be faced with a never ending list of responsibilities. As most of us know, a baby is a full time job, your sister is very lucky that she has not only the support of her family but the love and help also. Like Forest Gump said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get". I wish your family (especially your sister) nothing but luck and happiness. You will get through this and all come out stronger. The baby is very lucky to have an Aunt that cares as much as you do.
ReplyDeleteThank you Marissa and Tracy! I appreciate both of your thoughts and prayers. I believe everything is going to go okay.. She has a lot of support behind her, which is important with her mentality. I will continue to blog after the class ends and let you guys know how it ends up.. :) she's already 5 months, so we find out the sex soon!!
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